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How Can You Bid Farewell To a COVID-Ridden 2020 and Move On To a Healthy 2021?

How do you say ‘farewell’ to a year we’ll never forget? What do we need to do to farewell the year of COVID?

Healthline suggested that we need to recognize the problems the year has brought but to move on and live our lives in a way that retains our good heart and good health.

So, after the social and economic turmoil brought about by COVID-19 we need to start collecting ourselves ‘off the floor’ and look at how we can handle moving on properly and healthily

2020 was certainly a tough year. Many lost jobs. Children had to learn from home while parents juggled that demand while working from that same space.

Many of us gained weight. Many of us lost a loved one. Weddings were postponed. Parties were canceled.

We followed along as political battles boiled over. Some of us lost friendships over elections.

So, the idea of looking back on this year and assessing things may seem unproductive.

Do we really want to examine all that?

Social media influencer Ellie Schnitt tweeted this recently:

“Hey, honestly, if you achieved anything at all this year, even if you just managed to actually get out of bed and shower a decent amount, that’s a huge accomplishment and I’m very proud of you.”

Experts say she has a point.

“It has become apparent that while there has been a lot of truly bad this past year, there has been good as well,” Sophie Lazarus, PhD, a clinical psychologist at The Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center, told Healthline.

“Of course there was so much pain and hurt, and lots of the changes had downsides,” she added. “But we also can see the good. Time at home with family, finding new hobbies, being out in nature. There were many ways people found good in this year.”

And it may be important that we take the time to dig into the past year and find those silver linings.

“The weight of this year has been pressing,” Lazarus said. “I say do this now.”

Katina Mountanos, a mindset coach and author of “On Adulting: How Millennials (and Any Human, Really) Can Work Less, Live More and Bend the Rules for Good,” said that for millennials in particular, it’s been a tough year.

“For so many of us, the start of our adult lives is being shaped by this time,” she told Healthline. “We were out there running toward achievements full speed and ended up sitting there thinking, ‘what if?’”.

That’s why, Mountanos said, it’s important to find the good in this past year and celebrate it, even if it’s as basic as the suggestion in Schnitt’s tweet.

Most who take the time to reflect, she said, will find more to cherish.

“For me personally, this has been a massive time of growth,” she said. “The time I had alone forced me to look at some things I had been pushing under the rug.”

The focus on relationships during theses times is a positive, Mountanos said.

“Reflecting on those and focusing more on the ones that are important, and I don’t think I’m the only one who did this, has made me stronger,” she said. “Not even necessarily the ‘love’ relationships, but all of them, the ones we may have been taking for granted, got more attention.”

Mountanos also saw many in her generation change their focus to what may be a more rounded way of life.

“For this age group, we are constantly trying to reach for these metaphorical trophies,” she said.

“Now I think this year has helped us think more about what matters,” she said. “That kind of movement could be very positive.”

No rose-colored glasses

How is one to look back and find good and then be ready for 2021?

First, Mountanos said, it’s OK to acknowledge the horrible.

“You don’t need rose-colored glasses,” she said. “It’s good to look at reality.”

But, she said, look, review and then — this is important — move forward.

After reflecting, Lazarus said, “pay attention to the present moment in a positive way.”

Her clients, she said, have impressed her with their fortuitousness.

“On a personal level, I’ve seen patients really go through some struggles,” she said. “But by finding their resilience and strength, I’ve seen each one of them come through stronger.”

“Certainly,” Lazarus added, “each one of us have developed some flexibility from all this. That’s a good thing.”

She suggests people take time to not just reflect but also to take care as the New Year rolls toward us.

Here are some recommendations Lazarus shares.

Shift your perspective

It’s easy to get caught up in what’s wrong in our lives and miss what’s positive or going well.

“Starting your day by reminding yourself of the good things in your life can help you keep a more balanced outlook in the face of the day’s challenges,” Lazarus said.

Many experts suggest writing in a journal about these positive things.

Unplug

Mindless scrolling on social media can increase stress and anxiety.

Put the phone and computer aside and take a walk, cook a meal, or ask your family about their day.

Technology does help everyone stay connected, but Lazarus said we all should be mindful of how it affects us.

“How are you feeling when you get off your phone for a bit?” she asked. “A break can be quite telling. And often, we all need a break.”

Be kind to yourself

It’s easy to be overly critical of ourselves right now, which only increases stress and makes things worse.

“Pause to take a deep breath, a bubble bath, a nap, whatever you need that day to help you remember that you’re important too. Just take care of yourself,” Lazarus said.

“So much of this is out of our control,” she added. “We really can benefit from going easy on ourselves.”

If you find that you’re overly self-critical on anything — a messy house or a lack of enthusiasm for work — Lazarus suggests we “think of how we would speak to a friend, and speak to ourselves that same way. ‘Push hard and get more done!’ can be counterproductive.”

In other words, self-compassion works.

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